One common worry among parents is whether or not their child will grow up to be an empathetic, kind, and helpful individual.
Having worked as a social worker for over ten years, I have been fortunate enough to work with many families, all of them unique. One common worry among parents is whether or not their child will grow up to be an empathetic, kind, and helpful individual. As parents and important adults for these children, there are many things that we can do now to help raise the type of adults we hope our kids will be.
Teaching through modeling
One of the most important things we need to remember as adults is that children learn best by watching us. The old saying, “Do as I say, not as I do,” cannot and should not apply to parenting. Yes, we are human and will make mistakes, but if it is our intention to raise superheroes, we must be them ourselves. When our kids see us standing up for others, they will want to do the same. If we do not want our kids to steal, we should not be eating food from the grocery store before buying it. It may seem insignificant to you, but little eyes are always watching and we want to be the best possible example for our kids to learn from.
Admitting when you have made a mistake
As parents or adults raising children, and especially multiples, we will often be overwhelmed and exhausted, and we are going to make mistakes. It is natural and totally alright to do so, but it may not seem as natural to admit when you have done so. However, explaining to your children that you did make a mistake is a powerful learning opportunity. All superheroes will struggle at some point, because with great power comes great responsibility. Pointing out that you did lose your temper, you did not follow through on a promise, or even made a poor choice when driving will allow your child to see you as vulnerable (which we all are at one point or another).
Books and movies are often full of characters needing to make choices, and they may not always make the best one. Having a conversation with your child about choices and allowing them to understand that they are not expected to be perfect at all times will ease some anxiety your child may be feeling. Using characters will help your child to visualize these things outside of themselves.
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